I recently posted something on Facebook about a quandary I had. Because I’m in two groups I sometimes have to choose between the two. I have that situation coming up, as Opera San José and Symphony Silicon Valley have a conflict. I posted a little note on Facebook, asking what others were doing. Someone posted a response that implied I was rather fortunate to be in such a predicament. She was certainly right, but what was written caused me to worry a bit.

I’m curious how others deal with this. Is it inappropriate to post that we have work? Does it make others angry? Envious? Sad? Should one never write about work? That seems a bit over the top to me, but I wonder.

Quite some time ago I had seen someone rage against people who wrote at all about their work, saying it was inconsiderate. The writer also said that people who wrote about work were bragging.

I never have viewed it in that way. I’m happy with other musicians have work. I take joy in hearing about what they are up to. I might have a twinge of envy sometimes, but for the most part I let that go. It’s a deliberate choice on my part: I hate envy and jealousy. I rejoice with those who have work. I feel for those who don’t. (“Mourn with those who mourn.”)

But I took my post down. I felt badly that I may have caused hurt to someone else.



  1. Its just as you say, envy and jealousy, and there is nothing wrong with posting your upcoming gigs on FB, it IS what the page is for, to update your life. I find that those who reply negatively are not friends and family of the original poster, this unconnectedness seems to get some people thinking they can be hurtful and mean.
    Ignore them, and let those who care know how things are going, both good and not so good, they want to know. 🙂

  2. I should make it clear that the person that caused me to take a recent post down didn’t come across as angry or envious: she merely said, “What a position to be in … lucky you get to choose!” or some such thing. But another had written a LONG essay about how horrible people were to post about their jobs. So I go back and forth on what to do. Thanks for your input, Jon! I do believe we agree. 🙂

  3. Peas in a pod and all that. 😛