I landed at a blog of an oboist who was quite upset. She had arrived late to a rehearsal (not her fault of course … um … but really it was from what I read). Then this player was upset because, when apologizing after the rehearsal for being THIRTY minutes late (!), no one said, “Oh, that’s okay.”
My response, if I were capable of honestly, would have been, “Don’t let it happen again.” If this was a professional gig the musician, who was a sub, very well might not be asked back.
In reading the blog, too, the player only left 30 minutes before the rehearsal began! I live 7 minutes from work and I leave sooner than that.
Here’s the rule, in case anyone has forgotten: Don’t Be Late!
Period.